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To let go,you need to do the opposite of fighting and resisting.You need to let go of your demands and expectation for how life should be and make peace with the way life is.

Find waht you are resisting.Then give it full permission to be there,If you have a fear of losing a relationship,be willing to be it.If you are resisting the way someone is ,then give the person full permission to be that way.

Be willing for anything.Set yourself free inside.Then take whatever action you need to have your life be great.

Keep in mind that letting go is a state of mind and has nothing to do with your actions.Letting go is the process taht removes the fear and upset so you can see what action you need to take.

In your heart,you can be willing to lose someone ,but in your actions,do everything you can to make sure the person feels so loved that he or she would never want to leave.

To make letting go a little easier,there are several steips you can take.The first is trusting.Trust that no matte what happens,you will be okey.When you know that you will be okay,letting go becomes relatively easy.

Trusting is also telling the truth.You really will be okay no matter what happens.Life is only threatening when you resisting.So stop resisting and trust.Trust that no matter what happens,you will okay.

The second step in the process of letting go is to be willing to feel your hurt.Be willing to feel all the hurt and the feelings of being not okay that your circumstances reactivate.Be willing to feel the hurt of being worthless or not good enough.

The avoidance of this hurt is what makes your resist.Once you are willing to feel this hurt,the need to resist disappears.You can then let go.

For examples,Robert had a fear of losing his wife Jan.To make sure she didn't leave,he hung on to her.His hanging on then pushed her further and further away.Robert was afraid of losing Jan because if she left him,this would reactivate all his hurt of feeling not worth loveing.To avoid this hurt.He hung on.

Once he was willing to feel his hurt,then loss of Jan ceased to be a treat.He no longer needed to hang on and became willing for her to leave.Then moment this happened he changed the way he related to her.Insted of needing Jan,he started treasuring her then felt so loved and able to be herself,she didn;t want to leave.

This is waht happen in life.The more you are able to let go and flow with life,the more life takes care of itself.You may no always get what you want,but you can always be free inside.You can restore both your peace of mind and your effectiveness.You can create a life that works.